Me : “I’m going to do a dark wash”
Iron Man : “Ooh I may have something to add to that”
I suspect he is coming on to me as I know he is referring to underwear.
Don’t think I can’t spot an advance when I see one.
It feels like a little celebration. A joint coming together of underwear and possessions.
Just me and him!
I know what you are thinking guys.
Check us two out – right?!
Hell no!! The Kid has gone away for the week and this is our Rock ‘n’ Roll.
This is the common ground for the 40 something parents when The Kid goes away with the school for a week.
The coming together in holy matrimony of two child-free parents over a wash.
You can’t keep a good opportunity down.
So, what’s going on?
We should be out every night, going away, making merry and whooping it up at the first opportunity – shouldn’t we?
Well we may be doing a bit of the making merry – can’t desert the Prosecco when the sun is out now can we. It’s what nature intended, after all.
The Kid departed on Sunday and after
jumping for joy, sobbing uncontrollably for several hours we got it together.
We both had a day off yesterday.
And we made no plans! No plans!!
Look at us – embracing spontaneity, how very retro!
We needed a blooming good catch up. A catch up on anything and everything.
Let’s face it who has much to say of any substance during the week.
Who can be bothered with a full scale conversation with their partner after the day is done.
I’m generally onesied up and ready for bed not long after The Kid and I know Iron Man is always happy to jump on board an early night.
Of course, there are usually 3 on our team anyway, so our conversation is generally all together.
For this we feel very privileged.
However, there comes a time when you just need to talk grown-up.
Mortgage, finance, household and a general MOT of all things in The Department of Mum and Dad.
These are not things that are of much interest to a 9 year old or perhaps at times, conversely, of too much interest.
And some things just ain’t for kids are they. However much they want to get their two penneth in.
And then of course there is having a bit of a natter. Which, again – doesn’t always fit easily into the flow of the day.
So this is our rock ‘n’ roll and I’m glad that we can do it.
A whole week with no agenda.
There was a time I felt a bit nervous about us being on our own post kid – I think everyone goes through that. Bit of an identity crisis and you have absolutely nothing in common except the child. It happens!
I’m sure we’re not alone in having that little period of time. Dull days they were!
Fortunately it passed.
And so we started the day with no plans and worked our way through ‘the list’.
A second date was agreed for IKEA on Wednesday evening so things were looking good.
Iron Man cracked two jokes during the ‘date’, GSOH – tick!
He got the wrong end of the stick several times and I had a few moans – ha. Some things will always remain but I can make a good recovery with my quick wit! Ha! GSOH – tick!
So far so good.
And we’re not completely dull either.
We hopped on a train and randomly ended up in Westbourne Grove.
If you haven’t been it’s definitely worth a mooch.
Top Date Tip : Don’t suggest they might want my coat when we walk into a posh charity shop knowing full well it cost less than their cheapest item and that it came from Florence and Fred!!!!
A few glasses of wine and some food in a cool little restaurant and we were ready to come home at 8.00.
Yes I know others are going out at that time. We passed them. We used to too (see ‘retro’).
A seat on the tube home and an Evening Standard each!
Happy days. No risk of over exposure.
Joking apart, we do actually do a lot of nice things together – with or without The Kid.
It’s very easy to think you have to cram every single little thing in to make the most of kid-free time together . We’ve danced at that party too. A few sneaky weekends away have certainly been notched up over the last few years.
But this week is all about having no restrictions and no agenda and being a grown-up.
So that is us.
And if you happen to see us in the Market Place at IKEA making merry with storage jars, art and too many pot plants – know that it’s OK to say hi.
You won’t be interrupting anything – really.
We are just living the dream.
Packing it all in and who knows, IKEA meatballs and chips might even get involved.
Spontaneity is the spice of life this week.
Thank you for reading and I’d love to hear how your child-free ‘hoolies’ compare.